How do you break up with alcohol?
Is it even possible? I’m here to tell you, that yes, it is possible. Do you believe in miracles? I do.
It’s been 5 years since I have ingested any mind altering substance into my body. Alcohol was my best friend. It was there when times were rough, and never let me down when it was time to celebrate. Most of my greatest memories, alcohol was involved. So, how could I ever imagine not having alcohol in my life? It was time. I had to break up with alcohol.
- wine tastings
- a good wine with steak
- food pairings
- wine and dining
- wine with my girlfriends
- happy hours
What do you do on holidays?
- 4th of July
- St. Patty’s Day
- New Years!!!
What?! I can’t even imagine! It’s too overwhelming to imagine, I don’t even want to think about it. I never thought, never thought, I would be more happy, content, at peace, have joy, abundance, gratitude, connected, and freedom than any of the 38 years that led up to that day 5 years ago.
I lived an adventurous life, don’t get me wrong, I’ve done some pretty amazing things, had epic adventures and numerous achievements leading up to that moment. But I was empty, depleted, restless, irritable, and discontent.
I have had a complete psyche change. I have awakened, I am connected, and I am eternally grateful. I have not done any of this on my own and cannot take credit.
100% of the time along my journey I have had guidance from others. This guidance has led to a spiritual awakening beyond my wildest imagination. All I had to do was take action, be rigorously honest, and be willing to do things differently.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
But change is uncomfortable, uncertain, and unknowing. Let’s face it, change is scary. Who likes change and doing it sober without my best friend? It hasn’t been easy… Breaking up with alcohol has been difficult.
During the course of these 5 years I have endured:
- The end of a 16 year marriage
- A devastating move to Montana from Maui, HI
- Living as a single parent, on a single income with 2 teenagers
- Picking up the pieces of financial ruin
- Witnessing the tragic passing of my “rock” (my father)
- Navigating the trauma of having a high risk teenager
- How do you not confide in your best friend when such traumatic situations are happening in your life?
I have a solution today and I’m grateful. I have daily rituals. If you are spiritually depleted, try daily rituals. The word ritual is in the work spiritual.
Healthy rituals, not the happy hour things, or it’s 5 o’clock somewhere.
So how have I made it through breaking up with alcohol?
- I have a belief in a power greater than myself.
- I meditate daily
- I read daily devotionals
- I pray on my knees
- I wake up at the same time everyday and get to bed in order to get 7-8 hours of sleep.
- I eat a balanced diet that works for my body
- I work out and train regularly
- I drink plenty of water
- I take supplements and use essential oils
- I consistently work on beliefs
- I am of service to my community
- I help those in need
- I walk others through my process
- I have a career I am passionate about
- I apply principles and virtues to my daily interactions with those I come in contact with
- I’ve cleaned up the wreckage of my past
- I continue to do daily inventories
- I promptly make amends when necessary
- I speak with intent
- I have a deep relationship with myself
- I am continuing to learn how to unconditionally love myself (I can be my worst critic)
- I use my voice
- I have an understanding on how to use my power
- I say what I mean and mean what I say
- I understand actions speak louder than words
- I stay present
- I do not allow myself to go on future trip and I do not regret the past
- I understand every failure was a lesson and every jerk I run into is a teacher.
I have only made it this far because of the amazing teachers, guides, angels, friends, family, and my Creator in my life.
I’m truly blessed and honored.